What you are in defined as what you are willing to struggle for
The desire for more positive experience is itself a negative experience and paradoxically the acceptance of one’s negative experiences itself a positive experience
Life is essentially an endless series of problems. The solution to one problem is merely the creation of another
Unhealthy love is based on two people trying to escape their problems through their emotions for each other
To be happy we need something to solve. Happiness is therefore a form of action
Don’t just sit there do something, the answers will follow
This is the most simple and basic component of Life – our struggles determine our successes
Maturity is what happens when one learns to only give a *** about what’s truly **** worthy.
Our crisis is no longer material; it’s existential it’s spiritual. We have so much f****** stuff and so many opportunities that we don’t even know what to give a f*** about anymore.
The more something threatens your identity, the more you will avoid it.
In my life I have given a **** about many people and many things. I have also not given a f*** about many people and many things and like the road not taken it was the **** not given that made all the difference
Being wrong opens us up to the possibility of change, being wrong brings the opportunity for growth
Don’t hope for a life without problems the panda . There is no such thing, instead hope for a Life full of good problems
Not giving a f*** does not mean being indifferent it means being comfortable with being different
It turns out that adversity and failure are actually useful and even necessary for developing strong minded and successful adults
We are defined by what we choose to reject and if we reject nothing we essentially have no identity at all
But a true and accurate measurement of one self-worth is how people feel about the negative aspects of themselves.
We are Apes. Wwe think we’re all sophisticated without toaster ovens and design of footwear but we’re just a bunch of finely ornamented Apes
We are responsible for experiences that aren’t our fault all the time This is part of life
We can be truly successful only at something we’re willing to fail at. If we’re unwilling to fail then we’re unwilling to succeed
The more you pursue feeling better all the time, the less satisfied you become as pursuing something only reinforces the fact that you lack it in the first place
Self awareness is like an onion. There are multiple layers to it and the more you peel them back the more likely you’re going to start crying at an inappropriate time
Sadly to deny one’s negative emotions is to deny many of the feedback mechanisms that help a person solve problems.
A more interesting question, a question that most people never consider is what pain do you want in your life. What are you willing to struggle for because that seems to be a greater determinant of how our lives turn out.
Wanting positive experience is a negative experience. Accepting negative experiences is a positive experience
Action isn’t just the effect of motivation, it’s also the cause of it
Life is about not knowing and then doing something anyway
I have both some good news in some bad news for you. There is little that is unique or special about your problems, that’s why letting go is so liberating
If suffering is inevitable if our problems in life are unavoidable then the question we should be asking is not how do I stop suffering but why am I suffering – for what purpose
The fact is people who based their self-worth on being right about everything everything prevent themselves from learning from their mistakes. They luck the ability to take on new perspectives and empathize with others. They close themselves off to new and important information
Don’t hope for a life without problems the panda said there is no such thing instead hope for a life full of good problems
To not give a hoot about adversity you must first give a hoot about something more important than adversity
Remember pain serves a purpose.
Many people become so obsessed with being right about their life that they never end up actually living it.
You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. You will never leave if you are looking for the meaning of life
We don’t always control what happens to u,s but we always control how we interpret what happens to us as well as how we respond
Sh***y values involve tangible external goals outside of our control. Better values are process oriented
Certainty is the Enemy of growth.
If there really is no reason to do anything then there is also no reason to not do anything
True happiness occurs only when you find the problems you enjoy having, and enjoy solving
Because here’s another sneaky little truth about life. you can’t be an important and life-changing presence for some people without also being a joke and an embarrassment to others
The key to a good life is not giving a **** about more, it’s giving a *** about less giving a **** about only what is true and immediate and important
No truly happy person feels the need to stand in front of a mirror and recite that she’s happy
Life is essentially an endless series of problems. Nobody makes it through life without collecting a few scars on the way out
Everything worthwhile in life is won through surrounding the associated negative experience