Thank you for opening my email and for allowing me to share this week’s thoughts that I have pondered over.
Last Friday, Thomas (my husband) and I went out with some of our BIP100 Members for a ‘Netwalk’ and we stopped and had a gorgeous lunch in one of our client’s pubs in Rickmansworth. While resting we had a great set of conversations, totally random and very open.
The subject of how each person liked to connect came up and this created a deep chat about what we are all really seeking when we make new connections.
A super guy, Chris Daems, said “it is easy to create connections and new relationships, it is hard to find people to have meaningful relationships with, and that is what I want, I don’t need just another connection.’ We all nodded in agreement.
This works well as a follow up to last week’s ponderings as it is expanding on the theme of ‘conversations’. My interest in how to create ‘quality connections’ has led me to see people in three segments: The Disconnected, The Connected, The Deeply Connected. The Deeply Connected tend to be happier, more innovative and seem to thrive.
The internet, as we know, has ‘disconnected’ us emotionally, yet we are all thirsty to feel significant and be heard and seen. Being ‘Connected’ doesn’t necessarily mean that we are any less lonely or close to anyone, it doesn’t mean we have trusted relationships that we can lean on, it might just mean a stranger has asked for a connection and nothing has moved forwards since you accepted it. It is only when we find those special people that we can ‘Deeply Connect’ with and through that we can be nourished.
It is the right time to find deep friendships in business, as you are not the only one who might be happy to find it. It can only happen when the two of you have the mindset for Open, Random, and Supportive conversations (ORS), quite the opposite from the world we are moving away from which is Closed, Selective and Controlling (CSC). This is a theory that Thomas came up with in 2009 and, like all things, we have waited until his future thinking becomes our present.
So perhaps, this week, you can think about who emotionally nourishes you in business, and how often do you find another person like this in your life?
What are you doing in your everyday life to nourish your soul and business with deep, meaningful conversations?
Thank you for reading this and I wish you love and joy while you grow your business and I wish you meaningful relationships. Together we can make the world less lonely.