I have registered the website www.somervalleydiary.co.uk so this is the christening of what will hopefully be a healthy bouncing boy. Dont click on it yet as there is no content

Today was my first working day on the diary project, and I decided to begin by visiting the library attached to the Hub in Paulton. There were about ten people in the library when I arrived, and a lady approached me to ask whether she could help.

I explained that I was looking for a regular source of information about local activities and events. She was unaware of the community website maintained by Paulton Parish Council, which does carry some event listings, but directed me instead to the noticeboards and leaflet racks near the entrance. Apparently, that was where all their information was displayed.

I told her that I was starting a project designed, among other things, to encourage people to get out of their houses and become more involved in community life. She laughed and said that her husband had recently retired and that she was forever encouraging him to go out and find something to do.

“That must be a bit of a pain,” I remarked.

“No comment,” she replied, laughing.

It was a cheerful little exchange and a pleasant start to the day. It also illustrated rather neatly one of the reasons for undertaking this project. There must be many people who, on retirement or following some other major change in their lives, find themselves wondering what to do with their time.

From there, I went straight to St Chad’s Surgery to see what further information I could gather from the leaflets on display. Many concerned national organisations with local branches or services. My immediate interest is more in home-grown activities, organised by local people for local people, although I may broaden the scope as the project develops.

One leaflet in particular caught my attention. It advertised a Cook and Eat group for older men, offering an opportunity to learn cooking skills while enjoying some male companionship. I was immediately interested and decided to telephone the organiser for further information.

Quite apart from my research, the idea appealed to me personally. I would enjoy improving my cooking skills, and the prospect of preparing and sharing a meal with men of roughly my own generation sounded particularly attractive.

The telephone conversation that followed was both informative and encouraging. It gave me a much clearer idea of how the Somer Valley Diary might present individual organisations and activities.

Rather than merely publishing a name, address and telephone number, I want each entry to convey something of the character of the group. What actually happens? Who might benefit? Would a newcomer feel welcome? What would it cost, and how easy would it be to join?

These are the questions that matter, particularly to someone who may be hesitant about venturing into unfamiliar company.

I suspect that this will become the general format for my proposed guidebook: short, friendly and practical descriptions that do more than provide information. They should make people feel that they would be welcome to come along.

The cooking group who I telephoned today provides an excellent first example. It follows my genuine desire to have such an experience in person.  Never done it before!

Men’s Cooking Group – Midsomer Norton

Learn to cook, enjoy a good meal and make new friends!

A friendly, informal cooking group for men who would like to improve their cooking skills while enjoying companionship, conversation and a little good-humoured banter.

                                                                                     Artist’s impression only 🙂

Run by Sarah and Jackie, two experienced volunteers, the group has been meeting for around ten years. Up to eight men work together in small teams to prepare a nourishing two-course meal, which everyone then sits down to enjoy.

No previous cooking experience is necessary. All ingredients, equipment and recipes are provided, and help is available at every stage. The atmosphere is relaxed and welcoming, with plenty of time for tea, coffee and conversation.

The group is particularly suitable for retired men, those living alone, or anyone who would appreciate some friendly male company.

Practical details

• Venue: Orchard Vale Community Hall, Midsomer Norton
• When: Fortnightly on first and third Tuesday of the month, 11.30 am–2.00 pm  Advance notice essential. 
• Cost: First session FREE, then £8 per session, normally paid in blocks of four (£32)
• Numbers: Maximum eight participants
• Contact: Sarah, group organiser  saddlestones@hotmail.co.uk

Why not come along for a free introductory session? There is no obligation to continue. Just bring yourself, a sense of humour and an appetite!

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The Challenge of Joining a New Group

One thing that struck me during my conversation with Sarah, who runs the men’s cooking group, was her awareness of how difficult it can be for someone to enter an unfamiliar social situation.

It is easy to assume that joining a club or attending a new activity is a simple matter of turning up. In reality, many people find the prospect quite daunting, particularly if they have recently retired, moved into the area, lost a partner or experienced some other major change in their lives.
There is always that initial uncertainty. Will I be welcome? Will everyone already know one another? Will I feel like an outsider? Will I have anything in common with the people there?

Sarah clearly understood these concerns. She explained that although some members had been attending for many years, the group made a particular effort to welcome newcomers and put them at ease. Nobody was expected to arrive with cooking skills or to fit immediately into an established circle of friends.

I believe this is an important lesson for all community organisations. It is not enough simply to advertise an activity. We must also consider how someone feels when they arrive for the first time. See samples below.

A friendly greeting, a little personal attention and an atmosphere in which people feel accepted can make all the difference between someone returning the following week and never coming back.

One of my hopes for the Somer Valley Diary is that it will not merely tell people what activities are available but will also give them the confidence to take that first step through the door.

My added comments about flyers